Healthy

· talking about your feelings
· respecting date or partner's friends and activities
· considering the other person's opinions and feelings
· stating differences of opinions
· respecting differences in other person
· having an equal say and opportunities in the relationship
· figuring out a solution that is good for both of you

Un-healthy

· believing people of one gender have more rights than those of the other
· yelling when you are angry at your date
· using the "silent treatment"
· pouting to get what you want
· pestering your date or partner until you get what you want

Abusive

· dominating and controlling the other person
· trying to keep your partner away from friends
· name-calling / put-downs
· breaking date or partner's possessions
· threatening to harm your date, partner, their friends or family
· intimidating, hitting, biting, burning
· restraining or holding another person against their will
· using scare tactics
· forcing sexual touching
· using sexual put-downs
· forcing sex

London Abused Women's Centre, 2002
Adapted from: The Body Shop, Expect Respect flyer
(adapted with permission from the City of Edmonton Community & Family Services' brochure)